Several articles back, I covered some great ways to ask for a woman’s phone number. Still having trouble asking her?
If so, I’ve got five great ways that you can get her phone number, but I’m going to warn you…
If you still haven’t used the last ones, learning these won’t do you any good! You have to take action, and when it comes to that, the best time to start is right now. So let’s look at five ways that you can ask for her number, starting today…
#1 The Direct Approach
Okay, this is one that every guy needs to use at least once:
“Hey, I’m in a hurry right now, I have to meet a friend… but I’ll be kicking myself later if I don’t ask for your number.”
Bam! Yes, you just walk up to her and say that. Now I know this might not seem very strategic. But this is the quickest way to get over the awkwardness of asking for a girl’s number. Make a commitment to do this at least three times a week.
Believe me, the confidence that it will build will be well worth the rejections… and you’d be surprised at how many women will actually give it to you.
#2 The “No Ask” Technique
This works especially well when you’re having a conversation with a woman that you just met and you’re both busy:
“Hey, I’m in a bit of a hurry right now, I’m meeting a friend of mine for ____, but I’d like to talk to you again tomorrow.”
As you say this, you hand her your phone. She’ll know what to do, and if you’re confident and decisive, she’ll do it. The cool thing about an approach like this is your trusting her by handing your phone over to her, which is a great way to start earning her trust.
Not only that, you also don’t have to actually speak the dreaded words: “Can I have your number.” which have the magical effect of making you and her instantly uncomfortable.
#3 Ask for the Date First
You know, you’ve probably found that asking for a woman’s phone number doesn’t always assure that she’ll answer or call you back. So you’re chances of getting a date are slim. But if you ask her out on a date right away, you get both the date AND the number:
“Hey, I’ve got to run right now, my friend’s are expecting me. What are you doing on ___.”
Once you set the date up, you simply say:
“Okay, now give me your number in case something comes up.”
Okay, so you’ll get less numbers this way, but you’ll also get more women who are actually ready to go on a date with you…which is what you want right?
#4 The Text Approach
This is very sneaky, and VERY effective. Asking if you can text a woman is less intrusive than asking if you can call her. Yes, you’ll still get the number, but using the word “text” will take the edge off of it. Now the best way to do this, is to have a reason to text her.
Here is the plan: during the conversation, ask her what she’s doing later that day, or perhaps what she’s doing right now. Then you show some interest and say:
“Hey, I’ve always wanted to go there/do that, could you do me a favor? It’s a really small one.”
(Most women will say yes)
“Text me and let me know how it was. You can just say like: ‘it was cool’ or ‘it sucked.'”
Then: “Here, I’ll send you a text so all you have to do is respond.”
When she actually texts you, then you can start up a conversation that leads to a phone call and then a meeting……you get the idea.
#5 The Indirect Approach
With this approach, you need to make sure you have a good conversation or you’ll have a hard time following up and getting her to respond to your follow ups. Engage her in a conversation about something that you saw online, it can be anywhere. During the conversation, you tell her that you’re going to send a link to her phone.
Most people these days have phones which have internet access as well, and you can send her the link and ask her to text you back about it and tell you what she thinks. If you do well in the first conversation, you can usually turn this into something.