If your ex boyfriend won’t call you back or answer your phone calls anymore, it can be extremely frustrating. You still love him and want to get back together, but how is that ever going to happen if he isn’t talking to you anymore? Here’s why he isn’t talking to you and the first step you need to take if you want to get him back for good.
It can be hard to deal with a break up, and if you want your ex boyfriend back, it can be even harder to let things go. You still want to talk to him every day, and even if you are just friends it is better than losing him completely. So you call him or text him all the time. And at first, he texted you back. Or at least answered sometimes when you called. But now, he’s not calling you back. And he’s not answering the phone anymore. And aside from the occasional one word answer, he’s not texting you anymore either. So how the heck are you supposed to get him back if he’s no longer talking to you?
The problem is, you’ve become that girl. You know, the one he’s talking about to his friends. He’s now trying to avoid you. The two of you are broken up, and you’ve now become the ex girlfriend that won’t leave him alone. And at first he might have felt sorry for you. But now, he just wants you to stop calling him. So he’s going to prove to you that he’s not your boyfriend anymore and he doesn’t have to answer to you. It’s just the way it is when there’s a break up power struggle.
If your ex boyfriend isn’t answering your calls anymore, it doesn’t mean that he hates you, or that he won’t ever want to get back together. It just means that you’ve now activated his control issues. He is going to prove to you that he’s in control. And he’s going to do that by not answering you anymore.
How do you reverse the post break up power struggle? How do you get your ex boyfriend to want to talk to you again? You start by leaving him completely alone. No more calling, no texts, no Facebook messages, and don’t talk to his friends. Just leave him alone. It’s called the No Contact Rule, and it puts you back on a level playing field. It puts you back in control. It shows him that you don’t have to talk to him every day to be happy.
What happens when you use the No Contact Rule? It might take a few days, but eventually your ex will see that you aren’t talking to him. And see, even though he thought he wanted to get away from you, part of him liked the attention. So it’s going to drive him crazy that he isn’t getting it anymore. He’s going to want to know why. And eventually curiosity is going to get the better of him. And then guess what happens? He’s going to call or text you!