One day you discovered that your friend, the one you shared who you like, is dating your crush. Perhaps, your friend never knew about your love interest because you never shared your feelings. Jealousy feelings might damage your friendship due to this difficult situation.
During these confusing times is better to determine whether to keep the friendship and move on with your life. Don’t let jealousy rule your life by following the following tips.
- Determine why your friend is dating your crush. Is it because your friend actually likes your crush? Is their relationship more casual? Or, did this friend become involved with your crush in order to hurt you?
- Decide how you are going to react. There will most definitely be jealousy on your part, and you’ll probably be hurting for a while. Trust may also become an issue. Resolve not to let your emotions get the better of you. This can be especially difficult if you’re in your teenage years. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from someone you trust completely! A parent, counselor, or close adult friend would be ideal.
- Figure out if you want to save your friendship. If you want remain friends with the person who is dating your crush, you need to act now. Evaluate this friendship. Was your supposed friend acting in a way to purposely hurt you? Did your friend know about how you feel towards the person they are now dating? There are many serious issues to consider. If you decide to end the relationship for good, you should decide how to Break Up With Your Friend. It’s okay to be angry, it’s a horrible situation.
- Start healing. A little old fashioned therapy never hurt anyone. In fact, it only ever helped someone! Talk out your problems with somebody you trust completely. Just get it all out there. This can be done by writing a letter to those you’re angry with, or you could write a song about the way your feeling. Poems work well, too. Simply screaming into a pillow can work wonders. Ultimately, remember to Love Yourself. Not having a relationship with someone will NEVER make your worthless. If things didn’t work out between you and your crush, so what? Their loss! And if your friend didn’t respect you feelings, well too bad for that person they’re dating now!
- Fill the void. Whether or not you decide to break it off with your friend, you’re still going to lose somebody that you care about. Either your lose your supposed friend for good or you simply have to give up on your crush. That hurt is going to leave a void. You need to find something that will make you feel whole again. You could Learn to Play an Instrument, Volunteer at your church, or Start Exercising. Find something that makes you happy. You’re too good to continuously dwell on other people’s relationships!
- Move on. Get out there and start meeting people. Go out with some people on a Friday night (not your crush and your friend, a different social circle would work well here.) Resolve not to think about your crush anymore. (Naturally this will take time, but don’t worry! You CAN do this!) Remove from your presence anything that reminds you of them. This is a painful but entirely necessary step. You’re too good to let this slow you down. Keep moving, keep busy and soon you’ll find you can be yourself again.
- Seek out your truest friends to get you through this.
- Volunteering is a great thing to! It keeps you busy, it’s altogether altruistic and it makes you feel good about yourself.
- If you break it off with your friend, keep it that way. It’s not healthy to go back and forth in and on/off relationship! Remember, you decided this was the best thing to do, stick to your guns.
- While depression and anger is perfectly normal in a situation like this, suicidal or violent thoughts are not! If this occurs seek professional help immediately!