It’s happened to all of us: you’re in front of a hot girl and you think she likes you but you’re not sure. You think to yourself, “how can I tell if a girl likes me?” And being paralyzed by your not knowing if she likes you or not, you decide not to make a move because you don’t want to risk getting rejected.
Sure, it would be nice if girls just directly told you that they liked you, but things don’t always work out that way. So, it’s your job to make sure you know how to tell if a girl likes you by paying attention to the indirect signs of attraction from her. This way, you reduce your chance at getting rejected if she’s not throwing herself at you, and more importantly, you don’t miss the opportunity to capitalize if she is.
It should go without saying that knowing how to tell if a girl likes you is one of the first things you must learn if you want to be effective at dating and attracting women. So here are some signs for how to tell if a girl likes you:
1. She answers your calls and texts always, and sometimes almost immediately.
You can tell if a girl doesn’t like you when she doesn’t pick up your calls or answer your texts. The opposite is true if she does like you. When she does like you, she’s happy to talk to you on the phone, call you back anytime you call, send you a text message out of the blue and respond to any text messages you send her.
2. She starts talking to you when you stop talking
A good way for how to tell if a girl likes you is when you’re having a conversation with her, stop talking on purpose and see what happens. Resist saying anything for the next five seconds. That awkward silence is a very telling moment. Usually, if a girl likes you, she will be the one that wants to fill the void because she will be the one that doesn’t want the conversation to end.
3. She asks you to hang out when it’s only you, her and another couple.
You’ll get mixed signals when she asks to hang out with just you alone, but when she asks to hang out with you, her and another couple, it’s a reliable indicator that some attraction is brewing. Weird huh? The reason is, usually the other couple will consist of one of her best friends (who she’s most definitely talked with about you already), and she wants her best friend’s opinion of you.
4. She goes out of her way to make time for you.
If you’ve ever asked a girl to do something and she tells you “Well, I had plans to go shopping with some friends…BUT it’s OK I’ll reschedule with them,” it means she likes you. Or at least she considers you more important than the other people she was going to hang out with originally which is definitely a step in the “like” direction.
5. She asks you personal questions about your past or current relationships.
In almost every part of life, it is important to know where you stand in terms of competition. If she likes you, the first thing she will want to know is what she’s up against before making a further commitment with her feelings. Many times, in order to avoid suspicion, she will ask if you have a girlfriend casually or even get one of her friends to ask the same question so be on the lookout for subtlety. If she doesn’t like you, of course she will not even care if you have a girlfriend or not.
Having given you the signs above, know that none of these signs are going to come at the perfect moment that will guarantee that the girl likes you. Don’t hesitate. The perfect moment is just an excuse for “I should have done it sooner.”
The best sign of attraction is the one you make yourself. If you want to know the best way of how to tell if a girl likes you, escalate the interaction with her. Escalating doesn’t have to have the same weight as making a move or getting physical. Escalating can be as simple as suggesting that you go outside for some fresh air if you’re in a crowded place or leading her to the dance floor if you’re at a bar or club. If you do want to add weight, ask for her number or ask her to hang out later in the week.
By escalating you put yourself in a win-win situation. If she follows along with your advances, you will know without a doubt if a girl likes you. If she doesn’t follow along, then you know where you stand with her and you can adjust accordingly. Bottom line: use the signs of attraction to get a feeling for if she likes you but be honest with yourself and escalate to see how she responds.