5 Ways To Have An Explosive Orgasm

5 Ways To Have An Explosive Orgasm

Culturally, we tend to think of orgasms as the be all and the end all of sex. Of course, orgasms are literally referred to as the “climax” of sex. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t always room for improvement …

An orgasm is the involuntary, rhythmic contraction of genital muscles followed by the warm, tingling sensation of pleasure radiating through the body. To be sure, sex can be totally amazing without an orgasm. Reaching climax is just one of many peak experiences to be found in sexual activity (and sometimes even in other contexts!). Continue reading

Why You Can Be In A Relationship & Still Focus On Yourself

Self-respect is essential for any healthy relationship. But when working with individuals in their search for love, I’m still always surprised to hear a common sentiment: “I need to focus on myself before I start dating.”

My surprise isn’t due to disapproval. I love that people have this feeling; it means they’re aware that real love starts within. But here’s the thing: dating doesn’t mean you aren’t focused on yourself.

The inherent problem in this sentiment is that many of us believe that dating or being in a relationship means we can’t retain who we are and what we want anymore. It’s as if we think a partner necessarily needs to take over our lives, and that they will preclude us from following our own path of self-growth. Continue reading

How To Express Your Authentic Truth In Relationships

“I feel like I’m always walking on eggshells with Rosalyn,” my client Sean admitted during our recent Skype session. “I hate that we can’t talk about problems in our relationship. As soon as something comes up that isn’t going her way, she attacks me and blames me. I don’t know what to do.”

Sean is not alone. I hear this over and over from my clients. One of the most common reasons for this issue is that people in relationships often fall into a toxic, caretaker-taker dynamic. What does this mean? One of the partners – “the taker” – is needy and demanding, using anger and blame to get what they believe they need from the other person. The other partner – “the caretaker” – is also controlling, but in a much more covert way. Continue reading

20-Somethings Have Invented a New Relationship Status, and It’s Called “Dating Partner”

“So, is he your boyfriend?” my friend asked, turning her head to the side and leaning in. I’d just recounted a lovely, snow-filled weekend I’d spent upstate with a man I’d been hanging out with for three months.

I felt unprepared. I quickly conducted an invisible assessment of the relationship in my head. Deep conversations: yes, and often. Exciting outings: yup, from hiking to art shows. Texting frequency: once a week. Post-coital cuddling: always. A “defining the relationship” conversation: nope. A desire for a “defining the relationship” conversation: absolutely not. Continue reading

How To Have A “Coregasm” (And Why You’d Want To)

I had just returned home after a great Pilates class and was bending down to load some dishes in the dishwasher when it happened. I felt my abdominal and thigh muscles flex, contract, quiver and then … boom! It was a coregasm! But how did it happen? Why did it happen? And most importantly, how could I make it happen again?

I had definitely heard about exercise-induced orgasms (what I’m calling “coregasms”) before in my life. But I always thought the coregasm was an urban myth, like a unicorn, the stuff of fairytales and legend. But since my own core-na-graphic experience in the kitchen, I’ve learned a few things about this very real phenomenon. Continue reading

Why You’re Having Bad Sex + What To Do About It

Recall the best sex you have ever had. I can almost guarantee that nothing about it was spontaneous. Whether it was anticipation of the date, the flirting that took place beforehand, your outfit or the cologne you decided to wear, sex was on your mind as a “plan,” at least somewhat.

Interestingly, we often associate spontaneous sex with passion and enthusiasm. While don’t long for the clumsy moves or awkward kisses of our teen years, we still tend to rely on youthful misguided intentions to propel us toward fulfilling sexual experiences. We glorify the idea of “spontaneous sex” at face value, forgetting that intentionality can make all the difference. Continue reading

How To Express Your Authentic Truth In Relationships

How To Express Your Authentic Truth In Relationships

“I feel like I’m always walking on eggshells with Rosalyn,” my client Sean admitted during our recent Skype session. “I hate that we can’t talk about problems in our relationship. As soon as something comes up that isn’t going her way, she attacks me and blames me. I don’t know what to do.”

Sean is not alone. I hear this over and over from my clients. One of the most common reasons for this issue is that people in relationships often fall into a toxic, caretaker-taker dynamic. What does this mean? One of the partners — “the taker” — is needy and demanding, using anger and blame to get what they believe they need from the other person. The other partner — “the caretaker” — is also controlling, but in a much more covert way. Continue reading

Top 8 Reasons Women Cheat: This May Surprise You!

Most women have been taught since childhood to be “good little girls”, “behave like a lady”, and “grin and bear it”. Remember hearing the saying “little girls are made of sugar and spice, and all things nice”?

Fast forward to the 21st century, where women are now allowed to be tough, to say NO, to speak their mind, to become CEO’s and to enjoy sex. Women have become more assertive and in tune to their needs, wants and desires. Continue reading

8 Scientifically Proven Ways To Have The Best Relationship Of Your Life

For many of us, our romantic relationships are one of the most central part of our lives. When things are going well, they are a source of total joy; but when they’re not, our relationships can bring about heartache. Though ultimately, our happiness really depends on how we handle our relationships, and how we treat ourselves.

There are probably things we have done or said in our relationships this year that have made things a little more tough than we’d like. The good news is that we can change — and what better time to reflect and set intentions for a better relationship than the end of the year?

If you want this year to be one in which you have the best love life possible, consider making these relationship resolutions:

1. Look at your relationship with clear eyes.

In reality, not all romantic relationships are worth maintaining. So, start by taking an objective look at your current relationship. Is your partner abusive? Disrespectful? Overly jealous? Are you two codependent? Can you be your authentic self with your partner? Do you two bring out the best in one another? Continue reading

3 Ways To Spark Your Charisma, Even If You’re Not Charismatic

Have you ever wondered what exactly “charisma” is? And have you ever wondered how you could “get it” … even if you feel like you’re not charismatic?

I remember as a young girl watching my father win over people everywhere he went. It didn’t matter if we were at a mall, at a restaurant, or at the beach. Within just five minutes, my dad always seemed to have a cohort of new friends gathered around him.

At the time, I didn’t understand what my dad was doing or what “charisma” was — let alone how “charisma” worked. But now that I teach it to other people and have broken it down in a practical way, I realized that being charismatic is about how you feel about yourself. It’s not a fancy technique or tactic. When you feel “magnetic” to yourself, you will draw people to you as a result.

But let’s start with a basic question: why try to be more charismatic anyway? For one, having charisma instantly makes people like you, but also trust you. That could mean more income. More friends. Your first choice of a partner.

Is it hard to “get” charisma, though? Not at all. I’m going to show you three ways you can spark charisma in three different contexts: at work, at a social event and even in a high-stakes, one-on-one situations, like with a boss or client. Ready?

1. Work

Focus on a time in your life when you’ve felt sharp, focused, and productive. Why did you feel that way? What triggered it?

Once you know what “triggers” those feelings for you, practice that activity you identified and do it for 5-10 minutes before you go to work. This is the kind of charisma where you can focus on what people are saying to you, what their needs are, and actively listen to them. This keeps you present, and makes people feel like they’re the only person in the world at that moment. Continue reading