Women May Have Better Orgasms With Funny (Or Rich) Partners

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Why are some orgasms better than others, even when there’s no obvious reason for a difference in quality? A new study has proposed an explanation: A woman’s orgasm helps her determine how good a partner the other person will be.

In other words, the stronger the orgasm, the more eligible the bachelor. Continue reading

Why She Only Knows What She Doesn’t Want

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Why She Only Knows What She Doesn’t Want

Most Women Don’t Know What They Want; They Only Know What They Don’t Want. Let me give you an example; have you ever gone to a shopping center with a woman?

Notice the way they go about buying things. They try every-freaking-thing on.

– “oh, a free Cinnabon sample? I’m on a diet but I’ll try it” –

Have you gone to a shopping center with a man? Probably not. Why? Because men try to avoid going to a shopping center. The best invention known to all men is internet shopping. Thank you Geek God!


The Biology behind This Phenomenon

Men have been hunters for thousands of years. Back then, men will look a prey and hunt it down. They had to stare at potential dinner preys. Be quite and focus for hours. In the modern day this has translated into the dating dance of the male hunter and the female prey. A man sees something he likes, he goes and gets it or at least try. Continue reading

How Women Avoid You Breaking Up with Them, with This Trick

How Women Avoid You Breaking Up with Them

How Women Avoid You Breaking Up with Them, her trick

This is the first part of a new blog series titled; “What I have Learned From Women“. Here I will explain what I have noticed and observed about female behavior and psychology. Hopefully, I’ll stick long enough to be able to make it interesting for all of you readers of the AreYouPop.com blog.

LESSON #1 – Avoid Girlfriend Breaking Up with You with This Trick

This is something I have observed every time I had to break up with a woman for whatever reason.

Have you tried to break up with a girlfriend and noticed they always asked you; – so you are giving up on us? –

Notice she is asking in present participle tense. If you forgot what is present participle is, let me refresh your mind.

From using English.com we get;

“A Present Participle is used with the verbTo Be‘ to indicate an action that is incomplete: Continue reading

Air Sex

I don’t think air sex is going to catch on as fast as air guitar did

Air Sex is a performance activity invented in Japan; clothed men and women simulate sexual activity with an invisible partner, often in an exaggerated manner, set to music, and in a competition before an audience. This is somewhat akin to playing air guitar, explaining the name. The creator, J-Taro Sugisaku, says that it was invented in Tokyo in 2006 by a group of bored men without girlfriends.

Words Women Use

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The other day, I received this email about Words Women Use. I couldn’t find who the original author is, therefore I’m NOT taking credit for it.

1. FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when theyare right, and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means half an hour. Five Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine (see #1).

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word but a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. “That’s okay” means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you – do not question or faint. Just say you’re welcome.

8. Whatever: Is a women’s way of saying “%@&* YOU!”

9. Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking “what’s wrong” – for the woman’s response refer to #3.

How To Avoid Dating Wonder Woman

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As I mentioned before, men often than not, will go on a date and pull out the salesman script.

– Sure, dude. That’s how you get the girl –

Wrong … dude.

I never like planning a date or going out on dates. It seems to me that as soon as the dreaded “date” word comes up, shields and walls are up and ready to block any attempts to real communication. All scripts and communication misdirection are put on the table. Suddenly, couples seem very stiff. The male begins to work his; “list of potential questions to get her to bed” item by item and the woman becomes wonder woman. Swinging her wrists left and right on a circular path, blocking any kind of bullet-fast-attempt-to-get-in-her-pants approach.

Diffusing Wonder Woman

Women are all about; anticipation, being mysterious, and connections. Let’s begin with anticipation.

  • Don’t ask a woman on a date. Ask her to go out and do something fun. Horse back riding, yoga, dancing lessons, tango lessons, hike, comedy show, etc. This will diffuse her defense mechanism and you won’t have to find topics to talk about. If she anticipates your intentions you are not fun to her unless she is literally throwing herself at you. Otherwise, just keep it casual, relax and fun.
  • Don’t Interview Her. Avoid pulling out a script to ask her what does she do, where does she live, etc. It is a very boring conversation and she already knows what to answer. Yes, it is important to establish the fundamentals but don’t spend to much time analyzing them. Try to mix actions, fun and conversation. Women are multidimensional in nature. Remember – she has five senses and they are ready to be stimulated. Use music, smells, chocolate, lotions, movement, etc.
  • Connect. I never go out with someone I have not established a connection with. Therefore, I have never gone on a blind date. Blind dates don’t make sense to me since the connection has to be established under unpredictable circunstances. Then, you have to stick around until the date is iver. It is much better to take a few days to build interest and anticipation. Connect before your meeting. Once you have met, the connection becomes more personal and visual. Therefore, really pay attention to her bosy language and be comfortable with silence. It shows you are confident and don’t want to rush. This creates a calming effect and a much better communication.

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Signs of Passive Aggressive Behavior

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Unfortunately, it is only after a few months into a relationship when we start to notice irrational or even contradictory behavior in our partner. This behavior of cold and hot is known as passive-aggressive. The book Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive-aggressive behavior. [2]

  • Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of engendering a feeling of insecurity in others
  • Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control.
  • Fear of competition
  • Fear of dependency
  • Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive aggressive often can’t trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
  • Making chaotic situations
  • Making excuses
  • Obstructionism
  • Sulking
  • Victimization response: instead of recognizing one’s own weaknesses.

A passive-aggressive person may not have all of these behaviors, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.

Reference : http://www.wikipedia.com

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Why Women Have More Tendencies to Cheat

Cheating Myself

Scientists have now looked at MHC (Major Histocompatibility Complex) compatibility among romantic couples and they report that the more genes in this system that a couple share, the more sexually unfaithful the woman is and the more she is attracted to other men during in the middle of her menstrual cycle—when she is ovulating and likely to get pregnant.

Scientist now have hard proven data that shows women are more likely to cheat on men the more compatible genes they have. In a smelling t-shirt test women chose men’s t-shirt based on BO. I can only imagine women sitting next to each other along a long table passing sweaty t-shirts and comparing notes … (vomit);

Test Subject Woman #5 – “Mmmhh … this one smells like cheese … wait a minute, it actually smells like sour lipton soup with a hint of sweaty balls. Yes, I’m attracted to this one t-shirt”

Of course the menstrual cycle plays a role in increasing the chances for a woman to cheat especially in the middle of her menstrual cycle – when she is ovulating and likely to get pregnant.
Summarizing, women are more likely to cheat on their partners when;

  • She has highly compatible genes to her partner and
  • In the middle of her cycle
  • When there is exotic foreign man sweating while lifting weights or salsa dancing

These observations leads me to the next topic;
How to Avoid Having Your Wife Cheat on You
Here are a few points to remember;

  1. Very important; DON’T MARRY YOUR COUSIN
  2. Tell her you love her in the middle of her cycle and have crazy sex with her
  3. Don’t let her go salsa dancing at that club. Her nose is going to drive her crazy
  4. Sign her up to an all women gym. This one is optional

Reference : helenfisher.typepad.com

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How to Ruin a Date by Having an Amazing Memory

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Most people read tons of magazines and books. Most guys read about literature, cars, newspapers, science, technology, psychology, philosophy, Greek philosophy, European philosophy, politics, who thinks this or that, and what’s happening here and there.

Information, information, information

Unfortunately, our society teaches us to consume information; useful and useless information.

We are taught to accumulate knowledge whether it is interesting to us or not. We stop listening when we fill our brains with information.

Most men accumulate great quantities of information, these are the good guys. They want to be praised and admired by how much information they know even if it is not actionable.

Where am I going with this? Having an amazing memory not necessarily means that you gonna get the girl. Remember the bad boy? How does he do it? He does know nothing, he has no conversation topics but he still gets the girl.

STOP selling your memory and start taking action.

Which action?

Talk a little 20%, Listen 80%

6 Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing

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We all want to improve our relationships and dating. Most likely, if you are a guy, you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do –

By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that have simplified and improved my social life tremendously.

First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.

Is Human Misery Funny?

Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.

During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.

Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.

– I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle –

Six Basic Rules of Improvisation

In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.

Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.

As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.

So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation – The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;

  • Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
By saying yes, we accept the reality created by our partners and begin the collaborative process from the start of a scene. The collaborative process or group mind helps make us giants, animals, villains, saints and more importantly put us in situations that we would normally avoid.
Add new information. An improvised scene can’t move forward or advance unless we add new information. That is why new information is added after the “Yes” of “Yes ‘and!”

Example:

– Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
– You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.

  • Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking is a way of minimizing the impact of new information. It is also a method for the performer to play it safe. The performer maintains control and avoids vulnerability by blocking. But in improvisation we say the opposite of what we would say in real life, “go there.”, rather than don’t go there.

Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.

  • Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
It is a way of avoiding committing to a choice or a detail. It is playing it safe. However, on more advanced levels, questions can be used to add information or tell your partner the direction to go in.

Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?

Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?

  • Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
  • Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
  • Why is your partner moving away from you?
  • Why did she use a questioning tone?
  • What did the slight smile mean?
  • How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?

Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).

  • Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Example One: You’re the best brain surgeon in all of West Valley, Mark. That’s why I chose you to operate on mom.
Rather than:
You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
  • Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Characters need to go on journeys, be altered by revelations, experience the ramifications of their choices and be moved by emotional moments. We go to the theater to see the unusual days characters have, not the everyday moments of ecstasy and stagnation.

Dancing

Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.

Improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.

Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.

How to Tell When a Relationship is Over

It has been tough for some of my male friends to read the signs women send when they are loosing interest. One of them asked me, – “how can I tell when the passion is gone? Is it when she start complaining about my socks on the floor?” You are asking me? I have no clue – I thought. But, here are seven signs to watch for;

  1. She finds you annoying
  2. You get a list of all your faults … and then some.
  3. You try to get the magic back. But … she is not really into magic anymore.
  4. Things don’t make sense. Ok, this one is tricky because most of the time they don’t.
  5. Now … she is gay. Mmmmh, she never complained before.
  6. Start finding weird dead things
  7. Everything is drama and you don’t care anymore

My dear friend, watch this funny video about “How to tell when a relationship is over”.

Vixen Comics: Poison for Your Relationship

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Vixen: Poison for Your Relationship is a comic that evolved out of conversation at “Girls’ Night” at the Southern Sun in Boulder, CO.

My friend Karen* had an ex in town with whom she was trying to make a decision about moving forward. He was from out of town and she was considering moving to be closer to him. He flew out for the weekend and on Saturday night they partied a little too hard. The next day he was violently ill. He retched for three hours non-stop until Karen eventually had to take him to the emergency room. Karen had to run an borrow a car as they had left hers downtown the night before, too drunk to drive home. In some ways this left her in a position of power as he was debilitated and she was taking care of him.

It was from this place that the idea of Vixen: Poison for Your Relationship evolved. In the end of Karen’s story, the ex told her it would be too much pressure on him if she were to move closer, so the idea of “Vixen” became even more delicious.

Sarah Thompson – Comic Art and Content

17 Gender Differences When Taking A Shower

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Ever wondered why does she take so long in the shower? Ever wondered what does he do in the bathroom? Here is the answer to those mysteries, or differences in gender, of life.

In summary;

women – take off cloths. place it in sectioned laundry hamper according to lights and darks
men – take off clothes while sitting on the edge of the bed and leave them in a pile

women – walk to bathroom wearing long dressing gown
men – walk to the bathroom naked

women – if you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas
men – if you see wife along the way, shake wiener at her making the “woo-woo” sound

women – look at your womanly physique in the mirror
men – admire the size of your wiener and scratch your ass

women – make mental note to do more sit-ups, leg-lifts, etc. adjust breasts
men – look at your manly physique in the mirror

women – Turn on shower
men – Turn on shower

women – wash your face with crushed apricot facial scrub for 10 minutes until red
men – Wash face

women – use face cloth, arm cloth, leg cloth, long loofah, wide loofah and pumice stone
men – Spend majority of time washing privates

women – wash your hair once with cucumber and sage shampoo with 43 added vitamins
men – Blow your nose in your hands and let the water rinse them off

women – wash your hair again to make sure it’s clean.
men – Fart and laugh at how loud it sounds in the shower

women – condition your hair with grapefruit mint conditioner enhanced with real passionfruit. rinse conditioner off hair
men – Wash your hair. Make a Shampoo Mohawk

women – shave armpits and legs
men – Wash your butt, leaving those coarse butt hairs stuck on the soap. Pee

women – get out of shower and stand directly on bathmat
men – Rinse off and get out of shower. Avoid bathmat. Fail to notice water on floor because curtain was hanging out of tub the whole time. Leave shower curtain open, wet mat on floor, light and fan on.

women – dry with towel the size of a small country
men – Dry off foreamrs and butt only

women – spray mold spots with Tilex
men – Draw a penis on the fogged mirror

women – squeegee off all wet surfaces in shower
men – Then draw boobs so you feel manly

women – return to bedroom wearing long dressing gown and towel on head
men – If you pass wife, pull off towel, shake wiener at her and make the ‘woo-woo’ sound again. Throw wet towel on bed

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What She Means – Gender Differences

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Have you ever wondered what does she mean? Women in general will express their emotions, wants and desires using a normal straight to the point communication style. Unfortunately, some women will say something but mean something else.

I always wondered; why do they do this? I researched and read a few articles about how to recognize this female communication. In one of this articles they even explain what the man should do when she asks him certain questions. For example; Do I look Fat? or If We were not together which of my friends would you go for? I read the whole article to be prepared for the next time these questions come across. Then, I realized;

– Wait a minute! I don’t have to put up with this passive-aggressive behavior. It is not my problem she doesn’t know how to communicate –

I you still want to know what she means read ahead and find out yet more gender differences; What She Says vs What She Means.

1. FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right, and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means half an hour. Five Minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine (see #1).

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word but a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. “That’s okay” means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you – do not question or faint. Just say you’re welcome.

8. Whatever: Is a women’s way of saying “%@&* YOU!”

9. Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking “what’s wrong” – for the woman’s response refer to #3.

13 Things PMS Stands For

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For most women PMS is that time of the month in which they experience a roller coaster of emotions, physical pains and psychological fluctuations. These fluctuations are experienced as mood swings accompanied by irritability, headaches, depression and fatigue.

Despite psychologists not been able to identify mayor mood differences, gender clearly is the reason for this behavioral and biological changes. To my surprise, a cronic case of PMS is considered a medical condition known as Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD).

Next time a female goes through PMS be patience and try to understand she is going through some difficult times. The best advice is not to confront or get into arguments. As we have seen in the video there is no logic behind the behavior because is mostly emotional.

Below, 13 things PMS stands for. (I don’t know who the original author is).

13 Things PMS Stands For:

  1. Pass My Shotgun
  2. Psychotic Mood Shift
  3. Perpetual Munching Spree
  4. Puffy Mid-Section
  5. People Make me Sick
  6. Provide Me with Sweets
  7. Pardon My Sobbing
  8. Pimples May Surface
  9. Pass My Sweatpants
  10. Pissy Mood Syndrome
  11. Plainly, Men Suck
  12. Pack My Stuff
  13. …and my all time favorite…

  14. Potential Murder Suspect

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How To Tell When She Wants to Be Kissed

How To Tell When She Wants To Be Kissed
Last night I was at a get together, with friends, comparing differences between dating 20 to 30 years ago versus today. The question came up about when to kiss a woman. Well, that is the wrong question.
The real question is; How To Tell When She Wants to Be Kissed, you need to know how to interpret her signals;

Don’t go for the kill

Does a cheetah ask a gazelle if it is ready to die? This is the mentality that will get you a slapped in the face. Most guys will wait until the end of the night, impatiently, to make that sudden and slippery move; the undesirable forced-smooch-with-violating-tongue kiss. There are some signals that need to be properly interpreted;

Her Signals

  • She gets rid of the chewing gum
  • She glances at your lips while listening to you
  • She starts by looking down. Then, without words, she holds your gaze for a few seconds with a demure smile. Then, look away.
  • She will hide her hands behind her back.
  • She snuggles her face into your neck, barely kissing your cheek.
  • She slowly move her lips towards you
  • She kisses very softly
  • She moves away slowly

What he thinks the signals are;

  • She has been chewing gum all night long.
  • He paid for dinner
  • She looked at him
  • She is not trying to jump out of the car. Only a little desperate to go back home
  • She is not yawning
  • She is not talking to some other dude about getting together later that night but send a lot of text messages
  • He thinks that she thinks he is an awesome dude because she laughed at his drunk stories and hasn’t call him an idiot
  • She is not drunk-ass throwing up everywhere
  • She didn’t get that angry when he grabbed her butt in front of his friends

How To Know If She Doesn’t Want To Be Kissed

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After the Smooch Signals blog posted yesterday I received this email from a Guest Writer. I thought it will be great to share what she has to say.

“I have been watching the TV technique…not that that’s any reflection of reality. But anyway, most of the time in the movies, the woman puts her lips very close to the man’s lips (after some appropriate pause in the conversation).

He gets the clue (how could he not?) and completes the last inch required for contact. For me, I have never had to be that assertive and if I really like the guy, would probably be too shy to move in before he does. If we are both shy, well, I guess we’ll have to get really drunk first, stumble into each other and bump our lips together by accident before one of us blushes and pulls away. But according to your blog, the guys are never shy and are basically going to give it a try no matter what.

So maybe you should find out what women do to give out the signal that they DON’T want to be kissed?

Here are some obvious clues;

  • She throws up.
  • She leaves the party w/out saying good-bye
  • She talks about having a cold or the flu
  • She hides in the bathroom until you wander away
  • She initiates a short and sweet peck on the cheek and turns her back on you.
  • She doesn’t answer the phone when you call
  • She doesn’t call back
  • She lets you kiss her while firmly keeping you at a distance with her hand on your chest
  • She starts eating a slice of pizza … or anything
  • She checks her phone for messages
  • She belches like a truck driver
  • She talks about how much you would like her friend Bambi (unless she is into some other arrangements we won’t discuss here)”

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How To Know If He Loves You

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Continuing with our series, relationship dating advice (read previous post; he says, she hints) this time we are looking at How To Know If He Loves You. This is not the same as how to know if is going to marry you but it is an improvement.

Before we review those phrases that signal he is comfortable having you around lets remember that most men are not as emotionally connected as most women are.

Men will show you are welcome to his territory when he says phrases like;

“No you don’t look fat in those jeans”
“I love your short hair cut”
“No it’s perfectly fine that you cut off your long, silky waist length hair”
“I was only noticing how fat she looks in those jeans”
“I lit the match and the toilet seat is down, darling”
“You choose the movie”
“Here, You flip channels for a while”
“I’m here for you; tell me everything you’re feeling”
“Come here. You need a hug.”
“Were there other women there? I only saw you.”
“What are you thinking? a pedicure? sure, I’ll try it.”
“Dancing lessons? sounds like fun”
“You thought I forgot our 3-and-a-half-month anniversary, didn’t you?”
“I’ll hop out and ask this guy for directions.”
“OK … soy milk, eggs, M&M’s, frozen organic edamame, nail polish remover, Clearasil, a box of tampons and Yoga Journal… Did I forget anything? I’m on my way.”

By a Guest Collaborator

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He Says, She Hints

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Last night, a friend asked me for some dating advice on how to understand men. Well, as we all know understanding men is not an easy task. As a representative of the male gender, I have to say, yes it is difficult to understand men but slightly easier than understanding women.
Hopefully, I didn’t push the buttons of those feminist women out there with that comment above.

I tried explaining my friend the psychology of men and how simpler it is than women think. My thoughts started to come together.

After some more observations on human behavior, discussions, squeezing the stress ball by my desk, making fist-size paper balls and shooting a few into a trash can nearby, I decided to begin a perhaps controversial series of posts about relationship dating advice. Let’s begin with communication;

UNDERSTANDING MEN 101

Why men don’t get hints

Hints – The encrypted way of women to metaphorically ask for something

Don’t waste your energy hinting a guy into throwing the garbage out by saying – “This kitchen is a mess” – . Or while at the video rental store, – “Do you really want to go to watch that movie?” – when clearly you would rather pick a chick flick. The dictionary defines encrypt as; To put into code or cipher. To alter using a secret code so as to be unintelligible to unauthorized parties. Yes, women use a secret code that not even Dan Brown (author of the DaVinci Code) can figure it out. And who is part of the unauthorized party? men are. We don’t take hints because we men, are not subtle at all. We tell it like it is.

– “Hey, what do you think about this for her birthday gift, Bro?” a man ask his buddy.

– “That is crap, you cheap bastard! Why are you giving her pots and kitchenware for her birthday? That’s not for her; that’s for the kitchen. Why is she sleeping with you, again?”

While women are proud of their female intuition, developed through thousands and thousands of years trying to communicate with their newborns in caves, we lack this so called intuition.

Women can read other people’s auras, and sense with touch how another female or young creature might be feeling. They have a soothing and complex way of communicating with each other. They connect on three thousand different levels with another woman. And the deeper, the better. That is why they love to do all that crazy stuff like mantra, palm reading, aerobics, yoga, group therapies, go shopping and buy shoes, dance closely with each other and/or get drunk and make out. We see all those activities as lesbian-bordering activities and fantasize about it. We don’t understand why women love to bond in such ways.

Male bonding consists of watching a ball game, grabbing a beer, belching, farting and, very important, seating on your own chair. We don’t share couches, not even 12 feet long couches. It is just gay.

On the other hand we men, until recently, have been going out and hunting the next meal for the family for thousands and thousands of years. We went hunting with other Neanderthals fellas.

We see, we point to a prey, we hunt, we eat, we fart.

That is as far as communication went amongst pre-historic men. And to be honest, I don’t think it has changed that much.

So my dear friend, to summarize, we men are primitive beings that haven’t evolved that much communication-wise. We are still on the first floor of evolution while women are on the second floor. It is another level of communication.

Five Signs She Is Not Into You

dating - how to tell she is not into you

Most communication is corporal. Woman say more than meets the eye … In this case the ear. What is that she really means? Observe her body language.

  1. She crosses her arms – When a woman on a date places her hands in front of her body — especially if they are crossed — she is closing herself off from the man. If you get this red flag, you don’t stand a chance… and she wants you to know it. Men are not nearly as perceptive as women, so even if she’s not consciously aware of it, a woman knows her body language needs to be very loud.
  2. She places her bag between you two – If she puts her bag on the table it is always a bad sign. If your date places her purse — a real and physical barrier — between you two, she’s showing she wants to create distance.
  3. She speaks faster than an auctioneer – So she seems to love talking to you? Before you break open the bubbly, note the speed of her small talk. Romantic conversation does not occur at the same speed as business conversation. Conversation between two people who are attracted typically slows to about three-quarter speed and softens. In fact, most emotional conversation — with the exception of very hostile conversation — is at a slowed cadence. That said, she may be nervous early in your first date, and her nerves can cause her to spit her sentences out rapid-fire. But if by the end of the evening she’s still going at a rapid rate, consider it a clue that she just wants to be friends at best.
  4. She offers you a chin-up smile – Though it’s tempting to interpret any old smile as a sign of interest, all smiles are not created equal. Smiles can say a lot — “I’m polite,” “I’m crazy about you,” and, believe it or not, “I can’t stand you.” The secret to decoding what her smile really means? It’s all in the chin placement. A woman who gives you a relaxed, chin-down “soft smile” is smitten and wants you to dig her back. A full-on toothpaste grin or stiff and polite smile — both of which generally involve the chin raised up — mean either “I like you as a friend” or “I wanna get out of here!”
  5. She strokes her neck – If your date’s telling you she agrees that you should get together again, that’s a good sign, right? Maybe. Her body language may be the key to the real truth. If a woman is gently stroking her neck when telling you this, it may be a sign that she’s interested, but it is also known to be a sign of lying. To figure out which message she’s sending, consider the aforementioned “she’s not into you” signals. If she’s also giving you the raised-chin smile and speaking to you over a giant purse, you may want to move on to your next prospect.

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Two Places to Go on a Blind Date

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Blind dates are becoming the norm nowadays with the rise of internet dating sites. It could be stressful to meet a stranger that might be a potential life partner. Generally, speaking most people go to restaurants for the first date, a blind date. Shields are up and masks on while going through the process of trying to enjoy a meal while controlling stomach noises or potential food accidents.

It is a stressful time for men and women.

Instead, do something fun. Remember, fun, fun, fun, shut up and engage rule of dating. Girlfriendpedia does not recommend going to a restaurant for a blind date. Some women see a blind date as an investment of time since the baby clock is ticking. Therefore, a blind date in a restaurant could come across as a job interview … a job for life.

Relax and enjoy the date by being yourself. You don’t want to set up a trap or raise the expectations so high it will be stressful to keep up with when things are not so pretty or perfect.

For the first meeting, suggest going to places such as;

  • Interesting Places – Any location that gives the couple the opportunity to talk, move around and provides something interesting to refer to during awkward silences. Locations such as; art galleries, botanical garden, parks, promenade or an open-air concert
  • Partner Dancing Lessons – Highly recommended to break the ice. Since you are being instructed to hold your date in your arms and concentrate in each other’s body signals, this could be a good way to start your night. After an hour of holding each other while looking into her/his eyes, you are set for a more real and relax conversation.
During a blind date, the engaging factor is very important. Remember you are not pushing a sale therefore stop talking about what you know or own. Pay attention to facial expressions and body language as the conversation is developed around the following conversation phrases;

  • Who do you most admire?
  • How did they inspire you?
  • What has been the most satisfying achievement of your life?
  • Is there something you’ve always dreamt about doing?
  • What is your most treasured possession, and why?

6 Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009

Six Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009

We all want to improve our relationships and dating, in 2009. Most likely, if you are a guy you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do –

By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that simplified and improved my social life tremendously in 2008.

First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.

Human Misery

Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.

During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.

Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.

– I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle –

Six Basic Rules of Improvisation

In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.

Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.

As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.

So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation – The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;

  • Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
By saying yes, we accept the reality created by our partners and begin the collaborative process from the start of a scene. The collaborative process or group mind helps make us giants, animals, villains, saints and more importantly put us in situations that we would normally avoid.
Add new information. An improvised scene can’t move forward or advance unless we add new information. That is why new information is added after the “Yes” of “Yes ‘and!”

Example:

– Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
– You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.

  • Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking is a way of minimizing the impact of new information. It is also a method for the performer to play it safe. The performer maintains control and avoids vulnerability by blocking. But in improvisation we say the opposite of what we would say in real life, “go there.”, rather than don’t go there.

Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.

  • Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
It is a way of avoiding committing to a choice or a detail. It is playing it safe. However, on more advanced levels, questions can be used to add information or tell your partner the direction to go in.

Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?

Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?

  • Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
  • Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
  • Why is your partner moving away from you?
  • Why did she use a questioning tone?
  • What did the slight smile mean?
  • How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?

Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).

  • Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Example One: You’re the best brain surgeon in all of West Valley, Mark. That’s why I chose you to operate on mom.
Rather than:
You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
  • Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Characters need to go on journeys, be altered by revelations, experience the ramifications of their choices and be moved by emotional moments. We go to the theater to see the unusual days characters have, not the everyday moments of stasis and stagnation.

Dancing

Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.

In 2009 improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.

Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.

Wishing you the best this new year,

Daniel Lucca

No Smooch Signals

no smooching signals

After my Smooch Signals blog post I received an email from a Guest Writer. I thought it will be great to share what she has to say. Read the following article about written by our guest writer Denise. She has a comedic and interesting angle on what’s women’s reaction to his advances and attempts to kiss you.

She begins describing her pop observations from films, movies and TV shows;

“I have been watching the TV technique…not that that’s any reflection of reality. But anyway, most of the time in the movies, the woman puts her lips very close to the man’s lips (after some appropriate pause in the conversation). Continue reading

Smooch Signals

Smooch SignalsLast night I was at a get together with my friends comparing notes about the dating scene 20 to 30 years ago versus today. The question came up about when to kiss a woman. Well, that is the wrong question. The real question is; how to know when she is she ready to be kissed. You need to know how to interpret the signals.

Don’t go for the kill
“Does a cheetah ask a gazelle if it is ready to die?” This is the mentality that will get you a slap in the face. Most guys will wait until the end of the night, impatiently, to make that sudden, slippery move; the undesirable forced-smooch-with-violating-tongue kiss. There are some signals that need to be properly interpreted;

Her Signals

  • She gets rid of the chewing gum
  • She glances at your lips while listening to you
  • She starts by looking down. Then, without words, she holds your gaze for a few seconds with a demure smile. Then, look away. Continue reading

9 Dating Tips for Guys

Dating Tips for Men

Difficulty: Moderately challenging (especially for some guys out there; geeks, frat boys, for example).

1. Timing is everything – There will be certain days of the month in which you are going to be a jerk anyways, no matter what. Therefore, always wait until she decides when to go on a date. Be her friend in the meantime, and never push for a date.

2. Dress nicely – The average woman changes her clothes four times before she leaves the house. Don’t embarrass your date by showing up mismatched.

3. Be considerate – Call if you’ll be late. If you don’t show up, don’t expect another chance. You are screwed.

4. Be careful with the compliments -“You look nice,” gives a woman no information. “I love your shoes,” wins extra points. Continue reading

15 Ways He (should) say(s) I Love You

i Love YouWe already discuss in our previous post; 7 Ways She Says I Love You. Today, we are going over a few ways He says I love you. Women usually look for the actual phrase and expect their partners will say it; “I love you”. But men are usually not very communicative or expressive when ever it comes to their emotions. Therefore, they find other ways to express love.

  1. “No, you don’t look fat in those jeans”
  2. “I love your short hair cut”
  3. “No it’s perfectly fine that you cut off your long, silky waist length hair”
  4. “I was only noticing how fat she looks in those jeans” Continue reading

No Low Fat

no low fat

Female intuition … I could write book about it.

The sixth sense we guys haven’t developed because we are so preoccupied thinking about sex we missed the sometimes too obvious signals.

On the other hand, women are never pre-occupied with sex. They know is not really a challenge. Now, the challenge for women is; from who are they gonna get their next mind blowing orgasm followed by tender spooning, soft kisses and caresses. Instead, they usually get a snoring guy after two minutes performance of fireworks sex. Some snap, crackle, pop for him. Some guys might deliver the lite version; snap and pop. Continue reading

He Says, She Hints

She might be hinting you of something she doesn't like

She might be hinting you of something she doesn’t like. Learn the signs

Hints – The encrypted way of women to metaphorically ask for something

Last night, a friend asked me for some advice on how to understand men. Well, as we all know understanding men is not an easy task. As a representative of the male gender, I have to say, yes it is difficult to understand men but slightly easier than understanding women.
Hopefully, I didn’t push the buttons of those feminist women out there with that comment above. Anyways, as I’m trying to explain to Marisa the psych of men and how much more simple than women think it is, my thoughts started to come together :

After some more observations on human behavior, discussions, squeezing the stress ball by my desk, making fist-size paper balls and shooting a few into a trash can nearby, I decided to begin a perhaps controversial series of articles that I’ll call; Women on the Second Floor

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WARNING:

The following might or might not represent the author’s opinion on whatever he is writing. The purpose is to look at life from different point of views, NOT to insult anyone. So, DON’T take it personally. There might be some strong content but I’ll try “PG thirteening-it” as much as possible. For example, instead of the penis I’ll replace it by a little banana word.
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Of course, there will be always someone who is gonna come up to me and say; “why did you write that warning about not taking it personally? Are you taking about me?” Exactly my point. All right, let get started, go crazy, stupid or whatever the Black Eye Peas say. Continue reading