Culturally, we tend to think of orgasms as the be all and the end all of sex. Of course, orgasms are literally referred to as the “climax” of sex. But that doesn’t mean there isn’t always room for improvement …
An orgasm is the involuntary, rhythmic contraction of genital muscles followed by the warm, tingling sensation of pleasure radiating through the body. To be sure, sex can be totally amazing without an orgasm. Reaching climax is just one of many peak experiences to be found in sexual activity (and sometimes even in other contexts!). Continue reading
Self-respect is essential for any healthy relationship. But when working with individuals in their search for love, I’m still always surprised to hear a common sentiment: “I need to focus on myself before I start dating.”
My surprise isn’t due to disapproval. I love that people have this feeling; it means they’re aware that real love starts within. But here’s the thing: dating doesn’t mean you aren’t focused on yourself.
The inherent problem in this sentiment is that many of us believe that dating or being in a relationship means we can’t retain who we are and what we want anymore. It’s as if we think a partner necessarily needs to take over our lives, and that they will preclude us from following our own path of self-growth. Continue reading
Have you ever wondered what exactly “charisma” is? And have you ever wondered how you could “get it” … even if you feel like you’re not charismatic?
I remember as a young girl watching my father win over people everywhere he went. It didn’t matter if we were at a mall, at a restaurant, or at the beach. Within just five minutes, my dad always seemed to have a cohort of new friends gathered around him.
At the time, I didn’t understand what my dad was doing or what “charisma” was â€” let alone how “charisma” worked. But now that I teach it to other people and have broken it down in a practical way, I realized that being charismatic is about how you feel about yourself. It’s not a fancy technique or tactic. When you feel “magnetic” to yourself, you will draw people to you as a result.
But let’s start with a basic question: why try to be more charismatic anyway? For one, having charisma instantly makes people like you, but also trust you. That could mean more income. More friends. Your first choice of a partner.
Is it hard to “get” charisma, though? Not at all. I’m going to show you three ways you can spark charisma in three different contexts: at work, at a social event and even in a high-stakes, one-on-one situations, like with a boss or client. Ready?
Focus on a time in your life when you’ve felt sharp, focused, and productive. Why did you feel that way? What triggered it?
Once you know what “triggers” those feelings for you, practice that activity you identified and do it for 5-10 minutes before you go to work. This is the kind of charisma where you can focus on what people are saying to you, what their needs are, and actively listen to them. This keeps you present, and makes people feel like they’re the only person in the world at that moment. Continue reading
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Why are some orgasms better than others, even when there’s no obvious reason for a difference in quality? A new study has proposed an explanation: A woman’s orgasm helps her determine how good a partner the other person will be.
In other words, the stronger the orgasm, the more eligible the bachelor. Continue reading
Society and our specific environments set us up to believe particular stereotypes and assumptions that make being ourselves, and living our lives moment to moment, quite hard.
This can be especially true when it comes to relationships: all of us were brought up with a strong attachment to the idea of “romance” and/or “falling in love.” This is perhaps especially true for women, who bear the burden of many, many stereotypes and expectations, especially when it comes to heterosexual relationships.
But every person has their own truth, their own desires, needs and thoughts â€” and can nurture those things in their relationships. To do so, we need to all do some work. Here are 10 truths about relationships all women should know:
1. Nobody is going to “save” you.
Despite the message in Disney movies or our favorite romantic comedies, there is no guy out there that is going to save us. Others can help us and support us in our journey, but it is not their responsibility to “save” us from our problems nor is it anyone else’s responsibility to make us happy. We ourselves are the only ones responsible for our own well-being and happiness. Continue reading
Communication problems often lead to relationship issues, which is no great surprise. If you can’t communicate with your partner, how can you cultivate a sense of closeness and love?
Still, basic communication challenges often lead to broken relationships. It makes you wonder what everyone’s doing wrong. We’re going to cover five common communication omissions that threaten relationships.
1. Not asking unique, personal questions
“How was your day?”
There’s nothing implicitly wrong with the above question. But, if repeated frequently, it lacks sincerity and shows a lack of effort. Many couples go through the motions of social platitudes because they don’t know what else to say, but this kind of filler talk can be surprisingly devastating. Why? Continue reading
Before you read this, I invite you to read the first post in this series. Don’t skip it. If you don’t read it, I trust you’ll be highly triggered and write me off, call me a bitch, and go along your way. That’s not what I want. That’s not what we want.
What Does It Mean To Be “Consciously Awake”?
Everyone has issues. Men and women both. Humans are imperfect. As a result, we have to deal with and own our shit. We don’t get to throw it onto other people. That’s not what Consciously Awake means. Continue reading
The single hottest thing mine has ever said was the other night- we had both had a couple drinks, getting into bed, getting into heavy petting.
He stops and looks at me and just groaned. I said, – What? Did I hurt you? Are you okay? – He kinda looked at me and said, You have the hottest fucking body on the face of the planet and it’s all I can do not to take you right fucking now. -
He’s used these more than once, but oh man;
– You like it when I fuck you from behind? -or
– You like riding that fucking dick? –
Yes. Yes I do. Continue reading
Whether you’re navigating the trenches of a painful divorce, taking a sex sabbatical or hibernating from love, eventually you will yearn to get back out there and try your heart at love again.
As you pick up the pieces from relationships past, you may find yourself gaining enough courage to start fresh. Welcome to the hopeful next chapter of your love life. Continue reading
Unfortunately, not every man that is qualified to sleep over deserves to graduate into relationship territory. But in the meantime, you shouldnâ€™t feel prisoned to dry spells until Mr. Right comes knocking on your door. Right?
Before diving into any friends-with-benefits arrangement, prepare yourself to set boundaries and cold cut rules in order to keep the sex fling lighthearted and drama-free. Hereâ€™s howâ€¦
1. Stay Busy
Too much free time equals way too much think time. Stay as busy as possible. Get some extra work done after hours, involve yourself with an activity and take all procedures to keep your mind from wandering. We all know what can happen when the sex overpowers. It can handicap our thoughts into believing that our flings could elevate into something deeper. Spend less time thinking and more time doing.
2. Avoid Talking On The Phone
Long live those innocent, teenage high school days, when spending countless hours on the phone was a normal routine. Now there are real consequences that come with that kind of personal one on one time- the consequence being, â€œfeelings.â€
To remain as detached as possible, limit your sex partner to standard texts or even tweets. Keep any phone call brief and to the point. Donâ€™t become too engulfed in his personal life and most importantly, donâ€™t end up being his shoulder to cry on for any reason. Continue reading