Make Your Relationship Work By Doing This

Communication problems often lead to relationship issues, which is no great surprise. If you can’t communicate with your partner, how can you cultivate a sense of closeness and love?

Still, basic communication challenges often lead to broken relationships. It makes you wonder what everyone’s doing wrong. We’re going to cover five common communication omissions that threaten relationships.

1. Not asking unique, personal questions

“How was your day?”

There’s nothing implicitly wrong with the above question. But, if repeated frequently, it lacks sincerity and shows a lack of effort. Many couples go through the motions of social platitudes because they don’t know what else to say, but this kind of filler talk can be surprisingly devastating. Why? Continue reading

Why Women Lie

Why women lie

“Men lie the most, women tell the biggest lies” – Chris Rock

She Aikido Lies to you

 

Once, I dated a woman who said she doesn’t like people lying to her because she doesn’t lie. Instead of lying she will avoid answering the question or ask me back what do I think. She will also say; “I don’t want to talk about” and dismiss me.

 

Cute!! I always wondered if she thought I was that stupid so I lied my pants on fire about a bunch of bull shit. Well, can you blame me?

 

She is horny but won’t admit it

 

Society puts a lot of pressure on women. How they are suppose to behave, what they are suppose to do, and even what they are suppose to feel. Will a woman stand up and say; “I’m horny and just want you to take me to the back of a high school and do the dirty, dirty”? Probably, not.

 

It is only after they have reached their thirties that they realize they don’t have to lie about been superficial about their need for a very good hanky panky or a whats-that-a-hurricane type of sex.

 

She doesn’t trust you

 

Most women will say that this is actually the main reason for why they lie because … let’s admit it, it is our fault no matter how you as a guy want to see it.

 

She may have information she considers sensitive and isn’t sure whether to tell you about it. If you don’t know each other well yet, this could be a legitimate lie to protect others’ interests. As such, it should be seen as a relatively loyal gesture toward those she’s protecting. However, if you’re well into your relationship and she’s still hiding all sorts of information from you, she might have major trust issues.

 

She’s manipulative

 

Sometimes a liar justifies herself by saying that she only embellished the truth. Some people can win arguments and influence people just by emphasizing the right points — without really lying. On the other hand, she may lie outright in order to control the way you think or feel (typical woman’s behavior). If she tells white lies to win arguments or to twist you around her finger, you should watch out, because manipulation is a powerful tool.

 

Wait until she starts controlling sex. Manipulation is a bitch!!

 

She doesn’t want you to worry

If you’re concerned about that male coworker she’s been spending so much time with, she might lie about the time they spend together. This doesn’t mean that there’s anything going on (cough, cough !); she’s just doing what she wants without having you fret about it. How considered …

 

Him – “Honey what are you doing having sex with him?” –

Her – “It is nothing. I didn’t tell you because I didn’t want to hurt you but what is important is where my heart is and my heart is with you”. –

 

She’s testing you

 

My favorite. If she’s unsure of your temperament or intentions, she might try to test the waters. She could tell you a false story about a past relationship to see how you react. She might tell you her best friend thinks you’re cute to see if your eye wanders. This type of testing is meant to catch the bad guys before they get too close.

Remember; women give you drama to see if you can handle it. It is a unconscious mental challenge for them. Never loose or change who you are just to please someone. Make a real attempt to find your inner self and then change. Consider others’ opinions and read from the experts.
Women will love you if change for them and then they want more.

She wants to keep the upper hand

She might withhold information to maintain a sense power over you. For instance, if a mutual friend tells her something important, she may keep it from you so that she has the inside scoop. Or she might just keep things from you to keep you at a disadvantage; that way, she can pick and choose what to tell you and when.

Final Thought

In summary, men are bad liers because women are so freaking good at it.
Reference: http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_150/167_dating_girl.html

Signs of Passive Aggressive Behavior

signs of passive aggressive behavior

The book Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive-aggressive behavior. [2]

  • Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of engendering a feeling of insecurity in others
  • Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control.
  • Fear of competition
  • Fear of dependency
  • Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive aggressive often can’t trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
  • Making chaotic situations
  • Making excuses
  • Obstructionism
  • Sulking
  • Victimization response: instead of recognizing one’s own weaknesses.

A passive-aggressive person may not have all of these behaviors, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.

Reference : http://www.wikipedia.com

Image source : http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/

6 Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009

Six Rules to Improve your Relationships, Dating and Dancing in 2009

We all want to improve our relationships and dating, in 2009. Most likely, if you are a guy you also want to improve your dancing – Believe me … you do –

By accident, I have found six common rules to relationships, dating and dancing that simplified and improved my social life tremendously in 2008.

First, let’s look at how I got there after a period of depression and human misery.

Human Misery

Trying to snap out of a depression I decided to take and a basic improvisation class at the end of 2007.

During class exercises most students found me funny. Of course, I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I really wanted to cry and smoke cigarettes to treat my depression.

Curiously, those who tried to be funny didn’t get many laughs. By the end of the class they were naturally funny and have even improved their quality of social life.

– I guess human misery is funny; Pass me the whiskey bottle –

Six Basic Rules of Improvisation

In the second improvisation class the teacher introduced, six basic rules of improvisation.

Life is an art, very much like improvisation, and also a craft. A craft is something that is learned through practice, repetition, trial, error and oh, yes, hard work.

As with any art form, you can break all of the rules and still have a quality life. However, those best able to break the rules are those who first learn and understand them.

So, let’s look at some of the basic rules of The Art of Life Improvisation – The leader follows the follower and the follower follows the leader;

  • Say “Yes!”. For a story to be built, whether it is short form or long form, the players have to agree to the basic situation and set-up. The who, what, and where have to be developed for a scene to work.
By saying yes, we accept the reality created by our partners and begin the collaborative process from the start of a scene. The collaborative process or group mind helps make us giants, animals, villains, saints and more importantly put us in situations that we would normally avoid.
Add new information. An improvised scene can’t move forward or advance unless we add new information. That is why new information is added after the “Yes” of “Yes ‘and!”

Example:

– Hey honey, would you like to try that position tonight?
– You know what? Sure, let me get a shot of tequila … and remember the secret word is; uncle.

  • Don’t Block. The opposite of saying “yes” is saying “no”, blocking or denial. Denial destroys or stops the addition of new information or worse negates what has already been established.
Blocking is a way of minimizing the impact of new information. It is also a method for the performer to play it safe. The performer maintains control and avoids vulnerability by blocking. But in improvisation we say the opposite of what we would say in real life, “go there.”, rather than don’t go there.

Blocking at its simplest levels involves saying “no,”.

  • Avoid Repeating Questions. Another form of blocking (in its more subtle form) is asking constant questions. Questions force our partners to fill in the information or do the work.
It is a way of avoiding committing to a choice or a detail. It is playing it safe. However, on more advanced levels, questions can be used to add information or tell your partner the direction to go in.

Example: I know you’ve been seeing Jenny for four years.
Rather than: Are you going to tell me about her?

Example: I can see how excited you are about going to Pirates Isle in the ghost ship, me too!
Rather than: Are how do you feel about going to Pirates Isle in that ship?

  • Focus on the Here and Now. Another useful rule is to keep the focus on the here and now. A scene is about the people in the scene. The change, the struggle, the win or loss will happen to the characters on the stage.
  • Focus on what is going on right this at this moment.
  • Why is your partner moving away from you?
  • Why did she use a questioning tone?
  • What did the slight smile mean?
  • How do you, as your character, feel about what she is doing?

Remember, it isn’t just about the words; it is about what is happening. The words are tools used to accomplish or to pursue a goal (objective or need).

  • Be Specific. Details are the lifeblood of moving a scene forward. Each detail provides clues to what is important. Details help provide beat objectives and flesh out characters.
Example One: You’re the best brain surgeon in all of West Valley, Mark. That’s why I chose you to operate on mom.
Rather than:
You’re the best doctor in this town, which is why I chose you.
  • Change, Change, Change! Improvisation is about character change. The characters in a scene must experience some type of change for the scene to be interesting.
Characters need to go on journeys, be altered by revelations, experience the ramifications of their choices and be moved by emotional moments. We go to the theater to see the unusual days characters have, not the everyday moments of stasis and stagnation.

Dancing

Relationships and Dating are like dancing; The leader follows the follower’s body language and the follower follows the leader. It is a beautiful lifelong dance.

In 2009 improve your communication skills, relationship, friendships, dating and dancing by saying yes, being specific, focus, keeping the flow and change, change, change.

Keep it on your tip toes always fun and interesting.

Wishing you the best this new year,

Daniel Lucca

How to Undo Her Bra with One Hand

After watching this video I realize it is time for a mental note. Let’s recap on how to undo her bra with one hand.

Non Socialite Pachanga Diaries has always been confused and fascinated by how women think.

Does she want me to want to want her?

Is she going to like this set of pots for Christmas?

– She has been talking about it the whole year.

What does she mean when she asks; What are you thinking?

– What? am I thinking right now?

Video Recap

  • Flowers
  • Romantic comedy
  • Listen more than I talk
  • Tasteful Jokes
  • Shave and spray
  • Tongue scrapping

Now, ready to make the move to second base. Soft kissing is obligatory as well as hair stroking … and more hair stroking.

Must remember; “the bra is my enemy“.

Cold hands are not sexy therefore I should wash my hand with warm water … and make sure they are dry.

Practice Luke, practice. The pinch is probably the most difficult part of this video. At least is what I’d heard …

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How to Tell When a Relationship is Over

It has been tough for some of my male friends to read the signs women send when they are loosing interest. One of them asked me, – “how can I tell when the passion is gone? Is it when she start complaining about my socks on the floor?” You are asking me? I have no clue – I thought. But, here are seven signs to watch for;

  1. She finds you annoying
  2. You get a list of all your faults … and then some.
  3. You try to get the magic back. But … she is not really into magic anymore.
  4. Things don’t make sense. Ok, this one is tricky because most of the time they don’t.
  5. Now … she is gay. Mmmmh, she never complained before.
  6. Start finding weird dead things
  7. Everything is drama and you don’t care anymore

My dear friend, watch this funny video about “How to tell when a relationship is over”.