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What is the Best Mindset to Use Tinder?

1 – Focus on What Matters the Most

2 – Do Not Try to Get to Know Her

3 – Understand Why Women Use Dating Apps

4 – Don’t Be Afraid to Next Girls

5 – Break Rapport to Stop Wasting your Time

Can you find a girlfriend on Tinder?

How Guys Should Use Tinder in Practice

Getting a Date Should be Easy

Get an Attractive Tinder Account

Should You Swipe Left or Swipe Right on Tinder?

How often Should You Connect to Tinder in a Day?

How Fast Should You reply to Messages From Girls on Tinder?

How Long Should You Wait Before Asking a Girl out on Tinder?

How Many Messages Should You Send Before Asking a Girl out on Tinder?

Is a Tinder subscription worth it?

To Summarize

And One More Thing!

Life after divorce can feel brutal, especially for men. It can feel like you got knocked out in the first round of a fight you trained years for. You might feel lost, hurt, and wondering what the hell just happened. Your confidence may feel completely shattered.

But here is the truth. You can either let this break you and stay down, or you can get back up and come back stronger, ready for round two. You can use this moment to rebuild yourself into the strongest, most attractive version of you.

Just like Tom. After his divorce, he went from zero dates to confidently flirting again and bringing back that spark that makes women naturally gravitate toward him.

Divorce is not the end. In fact, it can be the beginning of your best dating life yet. You can learn these skills and even end up with a woman your ex would be jealous of.

So how do you go from rock bottom to magnetic again?

Stick with me, because I am about to show you a proven four-step system to reclaim your power, rebuild your confidence, and thrive in today’s dating world, even if you have not flirted with women in decades.

Step 1: Why Divorce Hits Men So Hard

Divorce creates an emotional crash that most men are not prepared for. It is like a car wreck. Even if you see it coming, the impact still rattles you.

Many men feel like they failed. Like they lost their identity. Like the man they used to be got left behind in the wreckage.

I see this constantly with the men I work with. Years of being the “nice guy,” believing in happy wife, happy life, often lead to weak boundaries, a lost masculine edge, and eventually being walked over and left.

That was Tom’s story too. He believed that giving more would fix things. Instead, he lost himself completely until we helped him reclaim his fire at one of our three-day Natural Attraction Boot Camps.

When Attraction Slowly Dies in Marriage

For some men, divorce does not come from a massive blowup. It just slowly fades.

Comfort replaces desire. Masculine edge disappears. Her feminine spark fades. You stop being lovers and become roommates.

Either way, the result is the same. Depolarization.

The masculine and feminine charge disappears, and without it, attraction dies. Love alone is not enough to sustain desire.

Reclaiming Your Masculine Edge

The path forward is reclaiming your masculine edge. This is exactly what we help men do in our boot camps.

If you feel jaded or bitter toward women, that reaction is understandable. Tom felt the same way. After his divorce, he lost half his wealth, his confidence was depleted, and he no longer trusted women.

But you cannot bring that energy into dating.

Women are not the enemy. There are incredible women everywhere. On the street, in coffee shops, at the gym. Most women want what you want. Connection, loyalty, companionship, and possibly a long-term partner.

And here is something most men forget. Women want sex just as much as you do.

This Is Your Opportunity to Reinvent Yourself

It is normal to fear rejection and starting over. You spent years with someone who is now gone. But that time does not define you.

This is the perfect moment to rebuild.

Think of it like renovating a house after a fire. You rebuild it stronger, cleaner, and with a better foundation than before.

This is your chance to reinvent yourself from the ground up.

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Step 2: Confidence Starts With You, Not Women

Confidence does not begin with women. It begins with how you live your life.

Tom did not become attractive by chasing women. He became attractive by transforming from a passive husband into a confident man with standards and self-respect.

Start by reconnecting with your purpose.

Ask yourself what drives you. What hobbies did you abandon? How is your fitness? How is your social life?

For me, it was music. I used to play guitar in a rock band and lost that part of myself in a past relationship. After the breakup, I picked it up again. That shift changed everything.

You do not need to become a man who chases women. You need to become a man women chase.

Small Daily Wins That Rebuild Confidence Fast

Think of yourself like a high-performing car that has been sitting in a garage for years. The engine still works. You just need a tune-up.

Here is how we helped Tom rebuild his confidence, and how you can too.

Get into the gym or take on a physical challenge. Tom started kickboxing.
Create daily micro wins that build confidence.
Take cold showers, make strong eye contact, speak up socially, or take a public speaking course.
Practice assertiveness through comfort zone challenges and social exercises.

Confidence is not something you wait for. It is something you build brick by brick, day by day.

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Step 3: Dating Has Changed, But Attraction Has Not

Dating looks different today, but the fundamentals are the same.

Yes, dating apps exist. Women are more independent. They expect emotionally grounded men. But attraction still works the same way it always has.

Dating apps can work if used correctly. Tom had never used one before, so we gave him a shortcut with our Automatic Dating System. We showed him how to outsource everything to a VA, from profile setup to booking dates. All he had to do was show up.

If you are a busy professional, do not waste hours swiping. Tom automated the entire process and only showed up when dates were set.

Almost no men do this, which means there is very little competition.

How to Create Abundance Without Chasing

Women still prefer being approached in everyday situations. This is about becoming a confident man who goes after what he wants.

Rejection is not failure. It is data.

You already survived divorce. That was real pain. Approaching women is just practice.

You must learn flirting, holding conversations, qualifying women, reading social cues, social calibration, and maintaining a masculine frame. These are skills we teach in our three-day boot camps.

Because Tom had multiple dates lined up, he felt zero neediness. That abundance completely changed how he showed up with women.

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Step 4: Set New Standards So History Does Not Repeat

This time, do not repeat your past mistakes.

Do not date from desperation.
Do not tolerate red flags.
Do not settle.

Tom used to attract emotionally unavailable women who mirrored his past pain. Once we rebuilt his standards, he began attracting women who respected and admired him.

Define the type of woman you want. Feminine, emotionally healthy, supportive, and aligned with your vision.

But you only attract her when you become the man who filters for that standard.

Becoming the Man High-Quality Women Choose

This is not just about finding another woman. It is about recreating yourself and then sharing that man with the world and with high-quality women.

Tom walked into our program stuck, bitter, and broken. He walked out confident, flirting, dating, and loving who he was again.

If this sounds like something that could help you, click the banner below and book a free one-on-one call. We will map out exactly how to rebuild your confidence and become the kind of man who thrives after divorce.

The Sexy Bedroom Game App You Need Tonight!

As you know, we’re all about fun & sexy bedroom games for connection and pleasure! My husband and I just came across a brand new app for married couples called Intimately Us. We absolutely love it! It’s clean, classy, and totally helps spice things up in a fun way.

Let’s face it, lovemaking in marriage can get routine and be put so low on the priority list that it becomes an afterthought. It can be difficult at times to know where to turn to get things turned back on! That’s why we’re thrilled to tell you about this iPhone and Android app: Intimately Us, the fun and sexy app for your marriage!

It’s full of games, activities, and resources that bust bedroom boredom. The whole app is clean (not vulgar, crass & raunchy) so you can spice it up without the yuck. Because the bedroom games are an app on your phone, there’s no printing, cutting, gluing, or taping required. What a time saver!

Here are the top four reasons why you’ll love the app too:

#1 ENCOURAGES YOU TO TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER IN THE BEDROOM

Trying new things together, especially in the bedroom, is so important to keep things exciting in a marriage. Lovemaking can be really bonding and, of course, fun at the same time! The app has tons of ideas of new things to try together to switch up your routine. Not to mention, stepping a little outside of your comfort zone from time to time is a healthy part of building intimacy in long term relationships!

The Intimately Us app includes a “Play” section with a growing list ofah-mazing intimacy games. You know we love our bedroom games here at The Dating Divas – and can we just say – you are going to go crazy for the ones in this app! I mean, a Battle Strip game played in real-time from your phones? Umm yes, please!

The app has games such as a board-game type play where you take turns turning each other on. The game gets spicier as you progress along the board! There’s a fun stripping game called BattleStrip, where you sync your phones and guess on the board where the other person’s clothing items are hidden.

There’s also Sexy Twister, Connect 4-Play, and other games. They come out with new games from time to time too.

Bedroom Game App Features That We Love:

• Ready-to-Go – These games are played right from your phone. They require no printing and minimal (if any) prepping. Just sync your phones and you are set! 
• Customizable – Each game includes a set of toggle switches at the start of the game where you can customize the actions to your comfort level. Not comfortable with that sexy action? No problem – turn that feature off. The app will only generate game prompts/actions that you approve, and it will remember your settings for future gameplay.
• Safe – If you ever receive any prompt you aren’t comfortable doing – you always have the option on the prompt by tapping “try another”. 
• Set Your Spice Level – Throughout the games, you can increase the spice level at any time by tapping on a jalapeno pepper. You can adjust to your mood.

#2 GETS YOU TALKING ABOUT SEX

Talking about sex with your spouse can be uncomfortable at first but it is so important. Communication is key for you both to have connecting and pleasurable experiences together. Couples that can comfortably talk about their preferences, likes, and dislikes are much more likely to have a spicier and more satisfying sex life!

The Intimately Us app for married couples gives you several easy, non-threatening ways to communicate your needs, your desires, and even your ideas in a way that you can both feel comfortable.

Couple Communication App Features That We Love:

• Conversation Starters  – Hundreds of intimacy-building questions with the touch of a button. You can choose categories such as romance, intimacy, and more! 
• Shared Sexploration Survey – This is a brilliant way for couples to discover what their shared sexual preferences are. Each spouse privately answers questions about their sexual preferences. After both complete the questions, you can compare answers in a safe and meaningful way. 
• Customizable Bedroom Language – This tool allows you to personalize the specific language to be used throughout the app when referring to various sexual vocabulary. 
• Wholesome Sex Education From Experts – We know how difficult it is to find trusted educational information regarding sex without the fear of what you might come across. This app for married couples includes in-depth articles, how-to guides, and resources from vetted professionals in the field.
• [Classy] Sex Position Reference- Designed to give you fresh ideas for the bedroom, the app contains over a hundred classy-illustrated sex positions to inspire your play in the bedroom.

#3 BECOME MORE EMOTIONALLY CONNECTED

Intimacy is more than just sex. Intimacy includes feeling close to your spouse. It involves understanding them on a deeper level and is usually achieved through simple, daily connections. Sex is the symbol of the union of two people coming together as one, one in heart, mind, spirit, and body. 

In short, the better the emotional intimacy, the hotter the sex!

The Intimately Us app for married couples provides several features specifically designed to give you and your spouse an opportunity to connect emotionally.

Emotional Connection App Features That We Love:

• The Date Night Ideas – Dozens of fun, romantic, and sexy date ideas all at your fingertips! We love the filter feature that allows you to find the best date night fit for you by filtering cost, time, and more!  
• Show Love Daily – This is one of our favorite features! Make sure that you turn your notifications on because this app sends you a daily message with a suggestion for a simple thing you can do to foster a connection with your spouse that day. This is also why we like the 10 Minute Marriage Challenge: we believe that daily reminders of love are more powerful than big gestures.  
• Chat – This feature provides you and your spouse with a secure intimate chat experience. It is a place for a flirty message and photos without the fear of accidentally sending something to an unintended recipient. It is encrypted and password protected – aka the perfect place to get flirty.

#4 – DIGITAL INVITES TO BUILD ANTICIPATION, BUILT RIGHT IN

Planning a romantic evening? Or want to send a flirty message to your spouse? Get rid of the hassle! A collection of fun & flirty messages are only a tap away.

We love this app so much that we joined forces with Intimately Us to give YOU something to add a little spice to your communications with your spouse. Available ONLY to our followers – the Intimately US app has added an exclusive feature with digital invitations and love notes to send to your spouse. Tap the Play button, then choose Fun & Flirty Invites, and then DATING DIVAS. When prompted, enter the password “DIVAS” to unlock all of them.

The BEST App for Marriage

Intimately Us is clean, informative, and fun. Most importantly, this marriage app is designed to improve marital intimacy by addressing the fundamental needs that every couple has.

How to get it on (your phone, that is)? It is simple! Download the app by clicking this link or search the app store for “Intimately Us”.

Here’s what others are saying about Intimately Us:

Candice: ★★★★★

Such a game-changer! We are having so much fun surprising each other. It helps us with remembering those little day-to-day things, like flirting and passionate kisses and more intimate suggestions. Love it!

Teresa: ★★★★★

Played our first game and all I’m going to say is WOW!!! Why did I wait so long to play a game!!! This brought us so much closer and on a deeper intimate level.

David: ★★★★★

We are really enjoying this App and have purchased it. Great information. Expands our conversations and intimacy. We have played the Intimately us game, battlestrip, and the date night ideas. We are discovering preferences that we didn’t know even after 17 years.

You can have confidence that this app is a safe place to get educated, inspired, and connected with your spouse. This, in turn, will give YOU more confidence in the bedroom! 

We hope you love it as much as we do!

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